If you want to be intrinsically motivated then you’ll need two things.
- Time to yourself
- Money
Once you’ve conquered yourself and your dopaminergic desires you’ll have number 2 but you may or may not have time to yourself.
You’ll know yourself when you take time to be alone.
You have to turn off your phone otherwise you’re wasting your time.
Then you’ll need to raise your vibration.
What does raising your vibration mean?
It means different things to different people.
It’s almost as if nature rewards us for living in accordance with nature, and punishes us if we get too distracted by bright shiny objects.
Materialism has its merits but it can’t fill the void, we have to do that by connecting with nature and helping others to self actualise.
When nothing satisfies you anymore you know that you need to raise your serotonin levels and stop engaging in addictive behaviours that are self destructive.
Today most of the people that are hanging out on bondi beach are half asleep because it’s Sunday and they all went out last night.
Usually they’re wide awake and whether they’re alone or in a group they’ll be on their phones.
Looking like zombies from an apocalypse.
Once you raise your vibration you’ll want to spend time on your own, you’ll enjoy your own company more.
Only people on a low vibration want to distract themselves by constantly being around others, or by constantly staring at their phones.
So if you’re struggling to enjoy your own company you obviously need to raise your vibration.
I believe that we should go out into the world, into a romantic relationship or enter into a friendship with our own issues solved.
We should have something valuable to share, some valuable knowledge, or a desire to listen and nourish those that we seek a connection with.
Whether you’re speaking to your parents, your siblings, your future husband or your friends. The primary focus should always be on what you can give them, what can you teach them?
Or you can listen and help them to feel heard.
Sometimes listening to others can be draining because they don’t want to change, they just want to moan.
Others want to change but they need guidance and emotional support.
Know the difference between the two….!
So if you have things that you need to fix before you feel ready to engage properly with others on a deep level fix them first.
Don’t distract yourself with meaningless conversations and empty encounters.
Try something new.
Go somewhere different.
Go on an adventure alone.
Get out of your comfort zone.
Grow and become the best version of yourself before you get into a romantic relationship.
Don’t see someone casually because you’re still working on yourself, that will just distract you and make you feel empty.
Or you may have just downgraded your potential as that casual connection could turn into something serious with the wrong person.
When you haven’t taken the time to self actualise and you have sex with someone you’re ruining your potential for greatness.
A truly incredible and self actualised person will never be interested in having casual sex.
They’ll only see it as a distraction from the heaven that they wish to create on this earth with their soulmate.
Attracting your soulmate will be easy when you’re capable of enjoying your own company because you’ve conquered your demons and spent time with yourself.
How can you give your light to the world if you don’t even know who you are?
#growthmindset